<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Kind Mind]]></title><description><![CDATA[I'm a certified Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist. Sessions are available in my East Grinstead therapy room or online by video call. ]]></description><link>https://www.kind-mind.co.uk/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Sat, 11 Apr 2026 09:11:22 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.kind-mind.co.uk/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[Why Anger is an Angry Topic]]></title><description><![CDATA[A therapist's perspective on why being called 'angry' can cause more upset than anger itself]]></description><link>https://www.kind-mind.co.uk/post/why-anger-is-an-angry-topic</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69ce8acf6def0df73ca9f5ef</guid><pubDate>Fri, 03 Apr 2026 15:04:58 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/599d5afdcec7458e9a131b2189cfd232.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Jane Kirkup</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Thinking Traps Keeping You Stuck: Cognitive Distortions, Low Assertiveness &#38; Why It Matters]]></title><description><![CDATA[If you've ever left a conversation feeling as though you said the wrong thing, took up too much space, or somehow let someone down, even when you can't quite explain how - this is for you.]]></description><link>https://www.kind-mind.co.uk/post/the-thinking-traps-keeping-you-stuck-cognitive-distortions-low-assertiveness-why-it-matters</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69bada7b293fee368c802235</guid><pubDate>Wed, 18 Mar 2026 17:26:34 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_2a55fdcdab4e4e9aa893887b5612bebf~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Jane Kirkup</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Do My Relationships Not Work? Understanding the Rescuer Pattern in Love]]></title><description><![CDATA[The Rescuer's Trap: Why We Fall for People We Think We Can Fix. There's a particular kind of heartbreak that's especially cruel: the one where you gave everything, sacrificed endlessly, and somehow still ended up being told you weren't enough. Where you poured yourself into loving someone through their struggles, only to be blamed when the relationship fell apart.



If this feels painfully familiar, you might be caught in what's known as the rescuer pattern, and you're far from alone.]]></description><link>https://www.kind-mind.co.uk/post/the-rescuer-s-trap-why-we-fall-for-people-we-think-we-can-fix</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69a96a7148ed77c77823214f</guid><pubDate>Thu, 05 Mar 2026 11:47:57 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/19c9853fa3cc4882a01e2c83babed777.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Jane Kirkup</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Age of Anxiety: How Modern Life Is Breaking Us Down]]></title><description><![CDATA[We're living in an era of unprecedented connection, efficiency, and possibility. Yet beneath the polished surface of our digital lives, millions of us are quietly drowning in anxiety. This isn't a coincidence, it's a consequence.]]></description><link>https://www.kind-mind.co.uk/post/the-age-of-anxiety-how-modern-life-is-breaking-us-down</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69a9620f48ed77c778230f9f</guid><pubDate>Thu, 05 Mar 2026 11:28:31 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/f4a2eb10b3154a8a8c1bcda2e37e94c0.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Jane Kirkup</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>